The theme of heartache and failed relationships is one that
has been prevalent in country music since its beginning. Something about that
southern drawl and slow, steady beat that is common in this genre allow for
these songs to be all the more powerful. Carrie Underwood is a master at using
break-ups and heartache to her advantage by allowing them to fuel the inspiration
for her music. In her album “Some Hearts” released in 2005, heartache is a very
common theme. In this album she describes how relationships can be wrought with
issues such as alcoholism and infidelity, which can cause the relationship to
end in an even worse manner. However, failed relationships are something that
almost everyone has to deal with at some point in their lives, making it a
topic that is easily relatable and can evoke emotions from a variety of people.
Examining the psychology behind Underwood’s break-ups is a way that this album
can be examined further, since the type of person she is and the situations she
faces are what primarily fuels her emotions. The reasons for the termination of
her relationships, along with the ways in which she dealt with them afterwards
are intertwined to create tracks that rose to the top on the Billboard charts.
This
album starts off with the track “Wasted,” which title reflects its message.
This song plays with the double meaning of the word wasted when Underwood sings
about how she does not want to “wake up one day and find that [she] let all
these years go by wasted,” and then when she talks about her alcoholic
boyfriend getting wasted to try to forget their relationship troubles. The
almost pleading tone in her voice and dramatic build-up at the chorus add to
the sincerity of her message. The slower parts of the song when only the
drumbeat and steady electric guitar are present also show that she is going
through a tough period of heartbreak at the end of a bad relationship.
Addiction is a serious issue that can put people in a relationship through a
tremendous amount of strain. Audiences are usually able to sympathize with
people facing this issue because of the suffering the addict faces and hard-won
knowledge they earn from going through this ordeal (Ross vii). Integrating such
a topic into her song creates a sense of pathos by allowing the listener to get
a sense of the heartbreak Underwood feels due to the man she loves being an
addict.
“The
Night Before (Life Goes On),” follows in this theme of a relationship coming to
an end. However in this track it is due to Underwood going off to college and
having to leave behind her hometown boyfriend. Instead of there being animosity
between the two, they are cherishing their last night together before what will
most likely result in a break-up. Underwood’s soaring voice is the main focus
of the song, allowing the minimal instrumentation of the acoustic guitar and
its slow and steady rhythm to set the tone of lingering sadness mixed with a sort
of new hope for the future. This song represents what many teenagers have to go
through in the transition to adulthood. Leaving behind people they love and
going off to an unfamiliar place are common scenarios which Underwood aptly
describes the underlying feelings of.
In “Lessons
Learned,” Carrie Underwood is able to find the good that comes out an ended
relationship. As she states it, “I’m thankful, for every break in my heart.”
This track is a reflection on the past mistakes she has made and how she has
grown from them to improve herself. She starts out slow and soft on the track,
but her voice builds at the chorus to show she is no longer ashamed of what she
has done. Instead, she is coming to terms with everything that has happened to
her and showing that she is strong as ever. Heartbreak is extremely difficult
to deal with no matter who you are. However if someone is secure with their own
identity prior to being in a relationship they will be able to deal with it
ending in a much more productive fashion (Choo, Levine, Hatfield 143).
Underwood shows young women to be confident in themselves, including their
past, to grow from such experiences. This is one reason why this is a great
album; it goes beyond talking just about being sad after a failed relationship,
and instead explores how it can change you for the better.
“Before
He Cheats” is that guilty pleasure song that we all need to hear after a
difficult break-up. No longer is Underwood soft and gentle with her words; she
is pissed and going to do something about it. The chorus is hard-hitting and
filled with emotion. She is not holding back anymore, and the listener can hear
it in her voice. Infidelity has been described as one of the top four reasons
relationships fail, since it can cause the other partner in the relationship to
have feelings of anger, betrayal, and insecurity (Melanie). Underwood felt
these emotions following her boyfriend cheating so she, “dug [her] key into the
side of his pretty little suped up four wheel drive.” There has actually been
research conducted on this topic of women versus men and how they handle break-ups.
Researchers at Binghamton University conducted a study in which they asked
participants to rate their levels of physical and emotional pain following a
break-up. The study showed that while women reported higher levels in the short
run, there was a switch in the long run to men reporting feeling more pain
(Prigg). While Underwood is expressing her anger now, her boyfriend will have
to deal with the consequences of his actions for a long time after this. As she
puts it, “'Cause the next time that he cheats... oh, you know it won't be on
me!” She has had her revenge, dumped him, and showed all of us that she is a
strong, independent woman who don’t need no man.
The
album takes a sharp turn at the next track, “Starts with Goodbye.” Underwood is
breaking up with her partner, knowing that it will be a very tough road ahead
without having him by her side. However, she knows it is what needs to be done,
and therefore is following through. This track has a much slower, depressing
vibe than the previous. The piano and violin featured in this song diverge from
the normal instrumentation in her more upbeat tracks. Severing ties with an
individual that one was previously very close with is an extremely difficult
situation, as it is described in this track. When people are in a relationship
for an extended period of time they begin to rely on each other throughout
their daily activities. Learning how to cope being on one’s own is not an easy
process. A study was done on this topic in regards to college students’
emotions following a break-up, and many recorded more negative intrusive
thoughts, and an increased use of first-person singular words (Boals, Klein
252). Underwood knows she is going to have to deal with a lot of pain following
this decision of hers, but she is staying strong because she knows it is what
is best for the long run.
In “I
Just Can’t Live a Lie,” Carrie Underwood describes how she is in a bad
relationship in which, “hurtful words are all that [they] exchange.” However,
she still is deeply in love with this man, and does not want to lose him. This
track differs from the rest of the album in that even though she knows that she
is in a worsening relationship, she is attempting to still save it. In this
album the listener is able to see all sides of Underwood, even the struggling,
unsure of what to do part of her. Break-ups are something that do not come
easy, even for country/pop stars like her.
Carrie
Underwood’s hit album, Some Hearts,
describes break-ups in all their forms. Some with a silver lining, some with
trouble letting go at all, and others with anger and revenge. Dealing with a
failed relationship is something that is experienced and can be understood by
people world-wide, making this album one that can be personally related to by a
variety of people. She is able to further this albums reach by also including a
mix-up of various genres including country, pop, rock, and singer/songwriter. One
way that this album can be understood further is by examining the psychology
behind her motives described in these tracks so that the listener can
understand her point of view and how she handles these situations. In Some Hearts Underwood explores multiple
themes of how relationships fail; such as alcoholism, infidelity, and simply
growing apart. Her overall theme seems to be that everyone has to deal with
these situations, and it is only how you come out in the end of dealing with it
that defines who you are as a person.
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Melanie. “The Top 4 Reasons Relationships Fail.” Psychology Today. Web.
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